This post is *that* post....

[tabaqui]

This doesn't happen often here, i know, 'cause i tend to be oblivious to most LJ wank, kerfuffles and explosions. But i happened to step right into this one, so i felt like i should speak up.



Yes, thenyxie is on my flist. Yes, i saw her first post about all this and posted a comment in support of her. My impression from her post was 'anonymous people in this anonymous hate meme are slandering me/my SO! Wincon has banned me over it!!'

Which seemed monstrously unfair and hinky and *weird*. And i said, in essence - 'i sure as hell hope the Wincon people have some kind of proof besides anonymous gossip! And they better pony up!'

Now, yes, that reads *very poorly*. My bad. I did not, do not, and will not ever advocate the 'outing' of people who have been assaulted or attacked. Unless you're sitting in a witness box in a court of law, you are not obliged to stand on a street corner and shout to the world that you have been attacked. I really envisioned and hoped that the Wincon people and Nyxie would privately get together online and explain the situation without revealing the names of anyone who didn't feel okay being public. If you're accused of something, you *do* have the right to the details of the accusations, though not a list of names so you can 'sue' anyone, or sic lawyers on them.

I now know many more details, and am...not happy at all with how this was presented, or how it played out. I will not delete my comments, because they're mine and i own them, but i did want to make clear my 'stance', for lack of a better word.

I'll talk about this, if you think it needs more talking. Myself, i don't want people driven off LJ with flaming torches and pitchforks, any more than i want them driven away from a convention because they're afraid of what might happen.

What i want is for people - myself included - to stop and think before they talk, and make sure they have all the facts first. I know i should have.

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[tabaqui]

Well, like i said, i had *no clue*. I wasn't on Nyxie's flist in 2008, don't actually remember anyone talking about Wincon then - not like i remember anything particularly from 2008 unless i'm prompted - and didn't have any clue where to look for 'anon hate meme' in, sadly, a *sea* of them.

So, i'm glad someone pointed out the link to me, so i could get all the info. And i'm quite pleased that you clicked and came on over - i appreciate that you were willing to give me the benefit of the doubt!

Welcome back! :)

[girlguidejones.livejournal.com]

Wonderful! I am so happy. :) Thank YOU!

*clings*

[tabaqui]

Dude, no. I'm not like...silently seething or anything. What went down was ugly and hurtful and just...yarrgh. Horrifying. And the ripples of things as stupid as my ill-considered post hit *way* too many people.

And that? Makes me extremely unhappy. So this is, quite literally, the least i could do.

But i'm glad you're back. :)